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Kelly made a Cheshire cat patch
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Once upon a time you stopped calling and texting Craig. It sucked. Craig sucked. It all really fucking sucked. Three months go by and today you don’t care as much about Craig.
Craig’s phone rings with a voicemail alert that says, “Craig this message is to inform you April is not still obsessing over you. She will likely have a change at happiness. If you don’t fuck this up than and soon she will likely go meet a decent guy. Have a great day!”
Craig sends a trial text to see what level of effort he is going to use to seal your obsession with him longer.
Craig texts” “What up girl?”
April gets the message and now April is freaking the fuck out.
Best Thing To Do That No One Does: Say Nothing.
Worst Thing To Do EVEr! Text back, “So why do you care?”
He won’t answer your question. Then you will be pissed of f and want to know why. Before you know it you will be wishing you had not texted this loser something that of course you have every right to answer.
If you text, “Whats up with you?” These outcomes will become likely:
1. No answer (that will be three days later)
2. The next morning he texts back without an explanation which leads to more confusion and fun.
3. Or the booty call/love session of you feeling he’s back in your life and him feeling like your unhappy again/mission accomplished.
Best Thing To Do If You Want To Get Rid Of Him and Have The Balls.
“Hey Craig I am so happy you text-ed me because I am still in love with you and want to let you know if you want to be with me currently, I am still up for that.”
IF He answers with an answer that implies no (but maybe yes of course)?”
Craig: “Well why don’t we see how things go…”
Instead of answering a question about the status of a relationship, some people will put you in time out. As if to say, “you better not ask these questions again or you will be put in time out again!” We remember how bad time out is right?”
Time to think In Relationships.
When have you taken this time?
Where does one go during the time they think about this relationship?
Is there a time limit?
“Hey Jon, well it’s been a week and a half is the thinking time up yet?”
NO ONE DOES THIS!
If someone says they need to time to think they are punishing you from bringing up the topic. Adult Time Out. Instead of answering a question about the status of a relationship, some people will put you in time out. As if to say, “you better not ask these questions again or you will be put in time out again!” We remember how bad time out is right?”
Don’t agree to time out! Say, that you don’t need time to think about what you want.
Example:
“Hey Mark well it’s been a week and a half. Is the thinking time up yet?”
NO ONE DOES THIS!
If someone says, “they need to take sometime to think,” they are considering the pro’s and con’s surrounding a new job prospect, allowing their child to do this or that, or playing a triviality game where a time limit or request to take a time out is applicable.
Adult Time Out.
You thought time out was over once you hit adulthood didn’t you? Well guess what? The punishment or executing this type of learning to behave through eliminating all the fun can apparently involve adults.
Example:
Karen: “Hey Jon It’s October so I wanted to know if your ready to move closer like you said. I wouldn’t press it, only that you volunteered moving closer after October so I was just going to follow your lead.”
Jon: “Look, I think I need to take sometime think.”
YOU ARE OFFICIALLY IN TIME OUT!
How dare you ask a normal question? Well, Jon is making his girlfriend in this example, try to regret she ever brought up normalcy. He wants her to feel, “Don’t you do that normal stuff again or you know what happens!”
What Happens Next.
Well you love him so you freak. He takes a weekend to “not think about anything,” and you cry while reaching a new height of paranoia you didn’t think was possible. After punishment is over, you are scared to death Mr. Brilliant will need time to think again, and you could barely handle it the first time so you zip it.
What You Should Do.
Jon: “Look, I think I need sometime to think.”
Karen: Smile (eyes making a “you’re weird ,” face
Karen: “About what?”
Jon: “Well just where my career/life/shoes are going..”
Karen: “Well that’s weird. I don’t need time to think. I also know your full of shit. Call me when you want to answer a question that shouldn’t even cause a fight.”
HE THROWS A FIT-KEEP WALKING!
He calls, and says something to try to get under your skin. You hang up.
Wait In Hell.
Unfortunately, paranoia weekend still ensues and begins. Your still worried because we can’t help that.
Jon begins to take sometime to ponder this whole situation on day 1 and 1/2. But Not About The Simple Question that He Refuses To Answer.
After Jon shits himself on day two.
When he say’s, he is so-so sorry and blames his momentary lapse in mind usage on someone’s death (he never knew the person or they passed away when he was three) or something, let it go BUT NOT WITHOUT saying, “
“Hey Jon It’s October so I wanted to know if your ready to move closer like you said?”
REPEAT IF NEEDED OR, IF JON SAYS, “We will talk about it later.”
Repeat.
Remember The Morale Of The Story!
Don’t agree to time out!
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If you are told to find yourself without instruction go find a mirror and slap yourself awake because that is red flag #1 when reading bad content on this subject. How do I know this to be true? Your gut already told you before I wrote a word.
Lately, the amount of spam articles and information intended for those wanting relationship advice has seemed to double. Many websites, offers, and content are filled with horrible relationship advice. This content always leads to some kind of silly series to buy, or more and more information that is low quality. Then there are many articles that pose a question such as, “How to get your ex back in 3 ways,” and by the end of the article the question isn’t answered. The three ways didn’t give direction but instead gave the reader a round about self explanatory automated sounding mess.
Would you ask a relationship advice expert to do your taxes, or teach you how to set up a car website with just knowing they were solid in the area of relationship advice expertise?
I never thought that I had a strong moral complex, but I have been in the industry six years now and I have never used BS as a tactic to gain anything. Why? Because I am good at what I do. I am not a good accountant, or ballet dancer, I am an expert at providing relationship advice. I also am not in the industry of online spam marketing, that I integrate with my expertise. I am not saying that marketing online is wrong.
Prove It! Anyone who wants to offer a way in which my expertise can be tested against another’s I would do it in a heartbeat. If there was such a crazy competition about there, I bet a lot of these experts would not do this.
Books: If you forgot what you read the next day, then that book didn’t give you any advice. Advice doesn’t have to be followed to become advice. The first step is having in your mind as an option or a tactic that enables a space in your mind. If you forget it the next day then it didn’t provide you with any advice.
If you market me at least don’t try and fake being knowledgeable about the offer you pose.
1952 – When A Girl Is A Teaser – Part 1 (Photo credit: clotho98)
Just don’t call yourself an expert, don’t give advice one on one, and make sure you have good content. If you guys are going to buy content at least buy some that doesn’t either sound automated or like someone was intoxicated while they wrote it. Grammar or spelling errors are far better than an article where there is a posed question and no answer. I never leave without the answer. I am not little miss perfect (actually I am the polar opposite I am just saying that it makes me confused and angry when people who really want some insight only see cheesy ads where people are playing in the park and some women is offering a six CD workshop on how to date yourself first or something else ridiculous.
How to know if this is probably a bad buy: If it is similar or closely based on this principle or words filled with, “find myself in the backyard of my 2nd soul,” type of programs.
If the person offering the product or service has more than two articles that pose a question in the title but never answer the question. Example: “How to get over a guy step by step.” – What are the steps? Make sure if they step says Example: “Step One: Focus On You. Well, do they tell you what they mean when they say to focus on yourself? And say focusing on yourself meant doing something unpleasant? How would that reap a benefit?
Even Oprah Makes Mistakes.
If this person has been on the Oprah Winfery show, and you still smell bull shift then don’t do it. Oprah has stated many times that she is not perfect, and has made many mistakes and had people on her show throughout the years that she might not now. This is my opinion. I happen to like Oprah, and while her fiction book suggestions are 20 for 20 with me, I have run into some relationship advice experts who were on Oprah or claimed they were on the show in some capacity. You know what I thought silently, “Even Oprah Makes Mistakes.”
How to do something about it – or at least not let someone else waste five minutes.
Comment on the ridiculous. Rating is all good but even a polite question like, “I am confused? Where is the part about cheating? Thank you.” IS FINE. They are not likely to answer or if they do will likely speak in psychology/thesaurus like language where the goal is to make you feel stupid. I have the education in psychology and you would be surprised all the made up term we never used in school. Also, giving relationship advice was my gig way before the degree, and my foundation has not wavered even though I learned a lot. It just didn’t apply as an execution but it did as an understanding.
Please leave a comment if you know anyone who was scammed by a dating or relationship coach or expert, or found articles or information that had such low quality that it angered you.
Lastly, DON’T CALL IT A SCAM unless you know for sure. SPAM and SCAM are very different, and calling something (even if it is worthless) a SCAM when it is not, isn’t even fair to the twiddle Dees and twiddle dumbs whom are writing this shitty content.
Spam – Unsolicited commercial email, often sent in bulk quantities.Spammer – Someone who sends unsolicited commercial email, often in bulk quantities.
Important Sources and Closely Related Content Of My Choice.
First if you think you have been scammed please contact Consumer Fraud Reporting to report this incident or request information about what you might consider a scam but are unsure.
Here is another source from one of my favorite online business blogs: Real Way’s To Make Money Online: where the author of this blog explains in detail her take on scams:
by Anna on October 7, 2012
I see various work at home opportunities get labeled as “scams” quite often when this is not the case at all. It happens not only in the comments here on this site sometimes, but on forums I visit as well.
The bottom line is this — simply having a bad experience with a company does not mean they’re a scam and in fact calling out a company as such is very serious so be careful when you say that, especially when you aren’t 100 percent sure you’re right.
So what exactly is a a scam? Well, it’s safe to say that a company is a scam when they’ve tried to take your money or steal your personal information to use for their own purposes. For example, these fake envelope stuffing jobs are basically all scams. You pay for information with promises of making tons of money only to find out that in order to make the money you’ve got to scam others into believing what you did so they’ll pay too. I have a lot of examples of work at home scams listed here.
But is a company a scam because they unfairly fired you? No. Is it a scam because you don’t like the way they run things? No. Is it a scam because they have a poorly designed website? No. Is it a scam because you worked and then didn’t get paid? Not always — if this happens to you, definitely contact the company before publicly declaring them a scam to see if it can be straightened out in case it was a mistake. If it appears they aren’t paying other people either, then you should be worried.
If you truly think something I have listed is a scam, please please email me so I can check it out before making a public statement that could be very damaging to the reputation of that company. I do read every single email I get so I can assure you it won’t be ignored! I only want legitimate things listed here so I will definitely take your emails seriously.
by Anna on October 7, 2012 · Quoted text italicized above was written by the owner of, “Real Ways To Earn Money Online. If you want to read the rest of this article or get the link to email the writer then CLICK HERE.
Consumer Fraud Reporting Website: consumerfraudreporting.org where you find free materials about scam’s and specific types of online scam’s. LINK: Direct Link For Information On Scam’s, Spam and how to identify each, plus instructions to report an incident: Consumer Fraud Reporting DOT ORG
OPRAH.com Resources of Applicable Material; Along With My Favorite Links:For great articles and book suggestions please visit oprah.com/relationships , oprah.com/book-list/Oprahs-Book-Club-The-Complete-List
| Gym Membership Statistics Gym Membership Statistics | Statistic Brain 2012 |
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| Average amount of times a gym membership owner will go to the gym every week | 2 |
| Average monthly cost of a gym membership | $55 |
| Average amount of gym membership money that goes to waste from under utilization | $39 |
| Percent of people with gym memberships that never use them | 67% |
| Percent of personal training that takes place at the gym | 66% |
| Total amount of people over the age of 55 with gym memberships (2004) | 10.2 million |
| Total amount of gym memberships owned as of 01/09 | 45.5 million |
| Total gym membership revenue for 2008 | $19.1 billion |
| Percent of health clubs that offer gym membership discounts to families, couples, and married couples | 89% |
| Total percent of gym membership sales down from 2010 to 2011 | -16%Gym Membership Statistics- StatisticBrain.com |
Why We Don’t Use Our Gym Memberships.
With all the best intentions we take a tour of our beautiful local gym and see all the possibility it showcases. Gleaming symbolism, reaps through this arena of future progress as we know it. As our credit card swipes our outlook on this upcoming year of benefits this heaven will bring. Unfortunately, some of us end being drafted monthly and our “free,” checking accounts start to dwindle and we start to sweat bullet’s, that were not created on the elliptical.
We Dread The Set Up More Than The Execution.
The main issues with having a gym membership, is not using it. The guilt that follows is simply the due to the procrastination and final decline of the preparation in going to the fitness center location itself. Getting dressed for your workout, grabbing the car keys, driving to the gym, parking and finally walking in; become a dreaded process. It is sometimes easier for people to put off working out all together when faced with the dreaded pre and post steps needed to fulfill the gym attending chore. Once the workout itself begins everything is usually good to go, but that preparation will always be a big reason gym memberships go unused.
Guilt Doubles.
So not only do we feel guilty if our hard earned money goes down the tubes from not using our gym memberships, then the guilt of not achieving the results physically – the access to the gym was intended for – has hit a stalemate. This means that your spending money that you don’t have and don’t even have shit to show for it materialistically.
Solution.
Instead of prepping for your appearance in public for 20 minutes or more, you can stay at home. Avoid all the treadmill awkward moments, perverts, naked women or men (who should not be walking around in Heaven naked let alone a locker room!) and monthly fees! Get your tennis shoes on and whatever gear you want to wear. Pop in a workout DVD.
Now here is the trick:You don’t have to workout to the DVD if you don’t want to. Just keep the bitch on until the DVD is over (credits too). If you workout to half of it, none, or the whole thing, you have done your job. REPEAT this everyday of the week. Eventually, you will work out. Also, you will discover that you need to get another DVD or explore other options to improve your collection.
Excuses Quick List:
List Of 10 Reasons Why Having A Gym Membership AGAIN Next Year Is = To Self Inflicted Punishment.
1. Naked Creepy People In The Lockers.
2. Pervert’s
3. EVERYBODY LOOKS AT YOU!
4. The whole issues with sweat, germs, towels, and handles.
5. Magazines. Forgetting to bring yours, your magazine not fitting on the machine, your radio wont work, or gasp…..You have no magazine or music!
6. Hearing Constant Grunt’s or Voices Of Encouragement-Not only is this annoying when you hear something that might be mildly entertaining you look around, and can never find where it’s coming from!
7. The Elliptical is their but three months or more of a membership will buy you a new elliptical.
8. Parking lots, of all gyms are creepy and at night make you feel paranoid.
9. BECAUSE EVERYONE IS LOOKING AT YOU NO MATTER WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE.
10. When you are actually fired up to workout someone and her friend has taken the last two of the machine you want to use and they are going so slow that once in a while the machine stops. They are wearing long sleeves with the magazine you wanted hanging loosely in their hands and talking about stupid ass shit.
Table At Top Of Page Source:Gym Membership Statistics | Statistic Brain
TIP FOR THE CRAZY Bitches out there who like to partake in activities that benefit even if acting crazy as bat shit is included (privatly of course) You will need – Hip Hop music or chick singing to hip hop, Attitude: I don’t give a fuck, Door: Locked, Biggest Mirror you can manage in front of yourself based on room, timer, Mentality: Really not giving a fuck.
You Can Dance (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
If you didn’t already know, I am a relationship advice expert and have worked with over three hundred clients over the past few years. This blog is not a walking promo, and since I tend to convey my personal self here more than my professional self within protocol; I don’t think it’s fair to load this blog with to many ways or link’s in which you can pay for my advice sessions via phone or online in a chat session (oh just for future reference if you care I will only speak to adults and never ever use a webcam or anything that presents the opportunity. I use Skype quite often for business, and my best friend lives in another state currently so we treat like our own personal version of a sleep over. This is funny because my boyfriend once caught himself saying, “(in a hushed tone) Hey is Stacey here?” In which Stacey via Skype from the table while I was standing in the kitchen says, “Yea It’s me Ben why are you whispering?” Anyway, to get back on the topic that isn’t the topic, My webcam goes in the drawer if not being used because with apps growing more and more scary I don’t want to be the first victim in any capacity of, one of the first victims of the, “I see you but you don’t know I see you.” APP.
So, back to why I am telling you about my status as a relationship advice consultant, advisor, guru, expert, psychologist, counselor – you pick. I am certified to call myself any of these names but tend to stay away from the last two names because via phone integration does not constitute all policies within certain guidelines. So, just in case I use consultant or client.
I am not perfect, and some find me to be to much to handle: But At least I Would Never Write, Submit, Publish or Suggest a source that appears to be something that could help your dating or relationship life under a guideline that is beyond me and just messed up.
Relationship Book’s That Sell Hundreds Because of The Title and Inside Is A Big Hot Mess. Some books about relationships sell purely because the book or article index, periodical and so on has a brilliant title. Why do you think I know this? I bought all these books to because I am in the field and am always soaking up new information. A lot of books have taught me what other people believe, and picked up a few handful of great tips, but sadly most of these books are all title and horrible talk. I have not published a relationship advice book yet, but have a few in the works and I can honestly say the books that I am going to mention below are better than any one of my drafts before the stage they are at now. Hold on! Before you think that statement is to subjective or to many self pats I am giving my back-when you read or have read these books you will see that it’s not a good thing. I can name 20 blogs about relationships, 20+ unknown books, that didn’t have the title but had the book. Sorry to disappoint anyone who was excited about reading these but if I don’t warn you about wasting money on bad relationship advice than I am not doing my job of giving you the best relationship advice on a full spectrum. I am not saying buy this instead that I work with or wrote, I was asked about my reviews for product ads and since I never promote affiliates, or get paid to review products that I don’t like or have not tested myself. I also never link my blog to those products in a way that would show sales from my source as the blog. Once in a while I will get paid to review sponsored ads and these are never posted on my blog.
How do you evaluate a bad ad if it is sponsored. Don’t you have to include ‘sponsored in the review?
Am I the only one who knows that you can give a BAD review if it is sponsored. If I review a horrible product I put sponsored by __ This is a sponsored ad for ___. I think the concept is misleading and after using the product I needed still needed to breakdown what is the point of using ____ don’t by it. I share sponsored ____ to inform people about the good and evil in products and their pockets.
I am saying get a sample of these or keep the receipt because there awful and trick people with the great title. Were not naïve were intrigued and think the title means the question or statement posed will at least present a bad or silly answer. Sadly, even the awful books in this list and review I gave the book aren’t even memorable enough to pick out the extremely odd points without going back to the book. Another tactic these title thieving books mongrels do is to have loved ones post reviews. I am going to write a post all about how you can tell if a review or group of them is done, how to see it, and how to know when there genuine. How do I know about reviews? It’s my other job. My reviews on amazon are my reviews that I personally complete as a copy of what project I did for work in my voice or products I have personally tested, reviewed and evaluated with the conclusion that it works and is worth the price. Books are reviewed differently than products and I know and have been hired to review many books in many different categories. I think this makes me qualified to review the books below even before I bring up my tie to relationship advice.
Get A Better Relationship Quick and Easy
I withheld the writers name here click below to see more information about this book below on the original review page.
(RATED ! STAR OUT OF FIVE)
Get A Better Relationship Quick and Easy (Kindle Edition)
Another victim of the writer’s friends or people she knows commenting. How do you know it is the case? Dates are all the same or the same date in a row then another date repeat. Instead of Houston, TX, the review’s will say things like, (USA) or I saw one here that said, (WILD WILD WEST) then one from (CUBA) or another country. Could this be a coincidence? Along with the sparkling titles and the one review with 4 stars to make it not appear so obvious? Maybe? Why don’t you read the book and let me see if this is an exaggeration.
The beginning starts with “The Dog House,” and how men end up there when they could avoid doing so. Well the dog house (symbolizing a couch) isn’t a bad price to pay. I would love that punishment. I like my couch. How to get out of the dog house?Or wait until she finally talks again? This isn’t advice for men or women to follow. I don’t see this book as a problem because it puts down or offends women. I think the problem is in the structure, and silly up and down all around banter. Even when you reference, “cheaper to keeper,” that can be a funny line, or offensive. It sounded neither and felt dry. The only part I like before it veers off into the ditch, is about men not settling for a woman they think they cannot get. They always need to try because women and men who settle are never happy.
Title Yesterday:
“Overall U.S. fertility rate fell to its lowest level on record, mainly due to young women delaying childbearing.” –Wall Street Journal
NEW TITLE:.“U.S. Fertility Rate Hits Lowest Level on Record.”-WSJ
Relationships Are Hard Enough Without Having To Be Ridiculed About Decisions Both Parties Make Together! Couples who decide to wait until they are ready to have kids make this decision for a reason TOGETHER! Anyone single or in a relationship should be insulted by the original title of this article and it’s bogus information trying to blame women and the decisions they make with or without their significant other-the perpetrators in the low U.S. fertility rate.
MY COMMENT TO THIS ARTICLE AND ABOUT THE ARTICLE CHANGE, Obvious insult towards couples, and my opinion about the writer who I believe is a moron.
THE TITLE OF THIS ARTICLE HAS BEEN CHANGED SINCE MY PRIOR COMMENT’S. (this means that not only will my old comments appear out there, they will also not apply as much or at all to the correction the title of this article went under).
Dear Awake WSJ,
Someone woke up and realized the writer who constructed the initial title was drunk, high, or had a severe case of short man syndrome in more ways than one. There is nothing wrong with being short. I am not talking about physical height. Physical short comings could be integrated into this definition (use your imagination) just not from the top of your head to your toes.
Short man or woman syndrome-Those who feel this unhealthy deep sweaty forehead, twitching anger for something about themselves they cannot change or don’t want to and decide to take all that crazy out on something or someone else.
Short Man Syndrome- THE RACE OF MAN not being able to support their heavy ego or admit the internal source for deep rooted hatred towards moment to moment conscious empty pillars of air that they exhibit with naïve exterior that looks like cognitive misplacement.
Thank you to the level headed, syndrome free employee of the WSJ, who after spitting their hot coffee out this morning decided that changing the title was now numeral Uno of Saturday’s WSJ to do list.
The writer of this article, if was corrected without having a choice is most likely pouting, If the writer presented the request or had clearance and opted into doing the edit his or herself than that decision stemmed from a momentary moment of mental sobriety that we can’t rely on.
If the writer of the original title was warned in anyway they are throwing a little fit. If he He or she probably walks fast hurrying towards no real destination. This person also usually sits to wait for appointments or meetings that don’t exist. He or she has short comings syndrome and although this article isn’t titled with a surface deep obvious shot today it’s new ankle deep status has no humor lost on me. Overall, It is the new ankle deep title in which represents where this person probably stands in the kiddy pool.
Sincerely,
Kelly M. Sowell
P.S If you ever want to replace Huey, Dooey, and Lewi I am a writer, and a good one.
Have you ever dating or been in a relationship with a guy, and you accuse him or mention something that his behavoir caused indicitive of obvious ill intentions? For example: “Hey I saw you grab my friends ass in a picture at the party last week..saved in your phone“.
Guy Who Cries Blind says, “You didn’t see anything. Your crazy.”
You say, “Yes I did. I will show you give me your phone.”
Guy Who Cries Blind says, “I am don’t even know where my phone is. I always save a lot of pictures on my phone you know that.”
You say, “WHAT?”
Two Days Later:
You say, “Hey, Mark there towing your car you better hurry before they take it!”
Guy Who Cries Blind says, ‘Oh shit!,” and runs towards the door to get his car.
HE BELEIVED YOU SAW A CAR GETTING TOWED BUT NOT A PICTURE?
Guy Who Cries Blind Is Guy Who Cries Blind Selectively more like it.
Bottom line: If a guy is trying to convince you that you are seeing things that aren’t real then that is a deal breaker. You can’t work with someone who pretends reality is only existent upon his choice. Period. Ultimatum time! The reason would not be the ass grab sometimes those things can be reconciled somehow — maybe — the reason would be the guy trying to convince you that it’s OK to pretend his mistakes are not only worth fixing or apologizing for that they are not even real in existence.
Guy who cries blind needs a see and eye dog not a girlfriend. He deserves neither.
Pro-we love each other (isn’t that a give in? a pro is s opposed to be a convincing reason to stay, we already know that you love one another or then it wouldn’t be relevant when talking about a relationship at all.
Con-he cheated and I can’t let it go-That is not a con it’s a problem no one has tried to fix. If you can’t let it go and tried to or he cheated and can’t help you feel better than you both suck at fixing it on your own –time for another game plan to fix things.
Weighing pro’s and con’s when factoring in a way to layout or ponder if your relationship is one that you should stay in then the list doesn’t have a purpose.
If I ask you what is a “pro,” that you think the relationship has, “Well there are good parts of our relationship and he loves me.”
I would say, “I know that but is a pro. Love isn’t a pro because if that didn’t have a place then there would be no relationship or nothing to consider.”
Yes, but having good parts in your relationship and love felt among the two of you is not a pro. A component is not a plus or a factor it is the foundation of the relationship.
Now, there can be PRO-active choices that you two make to try to see if you CAN be together or NOT.
Proactive Effort #1: Both people trying to fix things and when one form of execution doesn’t help or make things work better, you try another way, and then another with a plan each time.
Proactive Effort #2: There is no number two.
If you both aren’t in it then there is nothing to consider but to leave. If your decision is to stay there is no wonder to IF you should be in the relationship or “not to be.” It’s I KNOW I should not be here, but I am going to stay and leave soon, tomorrow, or whenever I can.
Is it easy to just leave? NO! It’s so hard for us to do because we love this person and we have to perform a ritual that will feel like a death in order to preserve our likely hood of future happiness.
We have to accept that he doesn’t love you enough to even try to fix it. Then we have to keep it up, and roll through the pain until we get over it.
Future looks good even though we don’t care at the moment.
Magic Fairy: “Kelly if you leave him, in five years I will cast a spell and you will meet a great man and he will treat you beautifully.”
Kelly: “Can you use the spell to keep me here with him and happy?”
Magic Fairy: “Your future with him would never be close to the future my spell will bring with another man.”
Kelly: “I don’t care if you told me the guy was related directly to Jesus himself I want to be with this jerk I love now just make him want to be happy?”
Magic Fairy: “They all say that and then later they would never give it up.”
It’s hard to look towards a future of statistical relationship trial number two when
Are we usually happier later? Hell yes! But in the moment knowing that a future is most likely filed with someone who loves you and has a pro list filled with things like, “great cook,” and cons like, “forgets his keys often.” If you weigh decisions with pros and cons it will be should you two move or buy a house, and the pros and cons will include factors that can make things harder or easier.
To be or not to be – is taken from Hamlet wrote by William Shakespeare.
People forget to read AFTER, “to be or not to be: that is the question.
To be or not be-Meaning, “To live or die.”
What Hamlet is musing on is the comparison between the pain of life, which he sees as inevitable (the sea of troubles – the slings and arrows – the heart-ache – the thousand natural shocks) and the fear of the uncertainty without the existence of who he loves which causes the pain.
To be, or not to be: that is the question.
Whether ’tis nobler in the mind to suffer -
Or to take arms against a sea of troubles,-
And by opposing end them? To die: to sleep;y
No more; and by a sleep to say we end
The heart-ache and the thousand natural shocks
That flesh is heir to, ’tis a consummation
Devoutly to be wished. To die, to sleep;-
To sleep: perchance to dream: ay, there’s the rub;-
When we have shuffled off this mortal coil,
There are no pros and cons just a choice to make for your future happiness: life or death.
If it’s not broken then do not fix it.
The Person Who Will not Try In the Relationship: Status: Broken piece
You: Status: Not Broken. (only on the inside).
Time goes by and you: Try to fix yourself which leads to your new “broken status.”
The Person Who Will not Try and You: STATUS BOTH BROKEN. The only difference is that you broke fighting for the two of you and he made a decision to be the broken.
What pros and cons are there when decided to stay or go in a relationship? None.
You both try with honest intent to get a plan together and try to fix things – a lifestyle change if needed.
Someone will not try=No choice about you two, a choice about you and if you will be happy.
Bye. To be or not to be? That is the question. To be happy or not to be? The is the choice you make.
If he/she will not proactive be in this with you – then it’s not to be or not to be – it’s I know I should go – time to follow through or be unhappy. Period.
Easy right? Hardly. Should be with him or not? Should I be with her or not? = Should I try to convince myself it is not that bad and hope the bad will disappear? Should I go knowing that it would hurt like hell and be the hardest thing I have maybe ever done? Even if I know there is a better shot, someone else will love me again.
